Tuesday, 14 August 2018

Boys will be Boys


Boys will be boys
That’s what we say when they conjure their famous pranks albeit harmless to sometimes make us smile beneath the anger that adorns our face. Many a time, they set out on dangerous errands not fully understanding the perils that it entails. Mainly it is because they are unable to fathom the distance, the perils like an adult and are innocently trying to be bigger than their size.
Most of the time they get away with it and even while we had fretted and agonizingly waited for the safety of the boys, when the deed is done and calm prevails, when the bugle is sounded for the end of the game, we sit back and allow a small smile of love, of affection to cross our faces, though we may be fuming from within.
Now imagine the plight of the twelve boys of the soccer team along with their coach who had merely gone trekking into a deep and treacherous cave to have some fun, to breast the tape before the others in the gang, or be able to pull each other’s legs after the deed was done to be able to portray oneself as the bold and heroic in the lot.
That is what boys are made of; they will always be pranksters, one step farther from their minders. The winding cave path was not new to them they have been there before though in shorter stints never going for the finish line, however this time they chose to make a dash for it almost as if it was a lemon break during their game.
That is what keeps then united and bundled together on a safe ledge while they were suddenly struck by flood waters, that made their return impossible. For nine days they stayed in that dark corner not knowing day from night, having lost track of the days of the week, but what won the day was their innocence, their pure hearts for even while being at their wits end, while not knowing what would befall them next, they had not forgotten their manners their upbringing.
When the experts found them they sweetly introduced themselves as if they had been stuck on the ledge only for a few hours, and were now expecting to be ferried out in minutes their discipline not standing in the way of their rescue. That’s what marks them as boys for boys will be boys, even after committing an almost fatal mistake their faces knew no terror, they were not apologetic, just a little weary having gone without food and water for nine days.
Even as I write this piece the rescuers who are the best in the world have gone in to fetch them the first three boys are already out and very soon the rest of them will be.  Only then can the scars be counted, the bruises managed, what will stay longer is the scars to the soul, the psyche of the boys, who are too young and which could lead to some embedded psychological issues in later life.
Will this stop others from dangling from tree tops, jumping from the edge, balancing on the dangerously jutting ledge, swimming against the tide, climbing heights without measuring the altitude, diving without knowing the impact on their tender bones, fearlessly riding their make shift machines at great speed, innocently challenging adult playfields, recklessly lifting the bar on their limits, making a dash for the mere fun of it?
I dare say No, for otherwise they would stop beings boys, and boys will always be boys. We will continue to hear stories of valor gone hopelessly wrong, of rescuers having to sacrifice themselves to extract innocent souls, of boys staring at you when caught with their hand in the till.
Robin Varghese
8th July 2018

NB: This article bears reference to the football team and their coach stuck in the caves in Chiang Rai, Thailand and the unending stream of experts trying to extricate them amidst the dangers to their own self.

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